When I was pregnant for the first time in 2013, I was petrified of giving birth. I couldn’t get my head around the fact I had to get this little human being out from my body! I was so worried about being totally out of control, and I was really scared about the pain.
So I was eternally grateful that I came across hypnobirthing early on in my pregnancy. I began to research it, and the more I found out about it, the more I wanted to try it. I read so many lovely, positive stories and once my husband and I had taken our hypnobirthing course, I allowed myself to believe that I would have one of those perfect births that I’d read about where I would be serene and calm throughout the whole thing, and my baby would just glide out of me.
I had so many people around me basically laughing whenever I said I was going to be using hypnobirthing for labour and that I was planning on not having any medication. It felt like everyone around me was waiting for me to ‘fail’ so they could say ‘I told you so’. But the more I learnt, the more confident I became that I could have a good experience. I was so excited to give birth to use all the tools and techniques we’d learnt.
But as I’ve written about before, my birth was far from ‘perfect’ and, initially, I did feel like I’d failed.
It had all seemed so black and white before I gave birth. I was either going to have a ‘perfect hypnobirth’ or I was going to lose it, be screaming in pain, have loads of intervention and a terrible time.
Until I gave birth for myself, I didn’t realise that you didn’t have to have a ‘perfect’ birth to have a positive birth.
I got so hung up on the fact that I hadn't had a 'perfect' birth, that I hadn't realised just how positive my experience had been. It was only when I went on to meet loads of new mums who had not had a good time at all, who hadn’t really understood what had happened to them, who felt really disappointed in the whole thing, some even traumatised by their experience that I realised the true power of hypnobirthing. It was in those first few weeks as a new mum that I knew I had to spread the message to as many women as possible that there is a better way to prepare for birth.
Now I teach a hypnobirthing course I have written myself and I am always totally honest with my clients about my imperfect but positive and empowering births. We discuss what might happen to throw your birth off track and all the things you can do to manage if that happens.
And it's not to say that you won't have a perfect birth, many of my clients describe their births as just that. But it means you will be prepared even if it isn't perfect, and you will still come away feeling positive about your baby's birth, a day you will remember for the rest of your life.
So if you would like to find out more, call me for a free chat to find out how I can help you, or book your place on my group course.